Just recently a friend of mine mentioned the topic of efficient friendships aren’t always healthy. It really got me thinking. He was discussing about how when you love someone you don’t care about the boundaries such as the insecurities – you’ll go out there and spend time with this person. You’ll forsake the worries about how late it is, or that you have other things to do. It’ll be a priority to talk to this person. It won’t be ‘efficient’ anymore. If it’s too efficient it becomes a calculation. To value friendship in a less efficient manner (I’m not talking about logistics here; because we do need it) is to love like Jesus does. It’s to put their needs before your own. It’s to be willing to face rejection because they’re worth the rejection.
Colossians 3:12-14 Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony.
Maybe I’m not explaining it all too well but it really got me thinking.